Ethel Mae (Hayes) White

June 24, 1932 ~ January 11, 2021 (age 88)


Our beloved Ethel Hayes White, 88, of Dallas, North Carolina died on Monday, January 11, 2021 at CaroMont Regional/Gaston Memorial Hospital in Gastonia.

She leaves behind her three daughters, Carolyn Howard and husband Bradley, Darlene Allred and husband Phillip, and Sheila Doster; her son, Donald White; her grandchildren, Jason, Chris, Kelley, Mandy, Jon, Josh, Holly and Danielle; her great-grandchildren Drew G., Noah, Megan, Rylee, Eli, Alex, Ben, Drew C., Stephen, Savannah and Cash; her sister Gail Harding; her brother James (Jack) Hayes; and many nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her parents, Pink and Pauline Hayes, husband Buck White, sister Ruby Kirkland, daughter Sharon and grand-daughter Dana.

Those who knew Ethel describe her as being a big-hearted, giving person and a fierce and loving soul. As a wife, mother, sister, grandmother and great-grandmother, she gave all of her heart to her beloved family, whether it was by cooking and hosting delicious meals, beating everyone in bowling, making everyone chuckle with her quick humor, or just keeping them in line when they needed wrangling and offering support and unconditional love with a push when they needed it. She worked for many years at a local women’s domestic violence shelter and was a passionate and active member of the First United Methodist Church in Stanley, where she was always willing to lend a hand to help with church activities like Bible Study, Sunday School and church dinners and fundraisers.

Ethel was an avid lifelong bowler, yet still a good sport on the rare occasions she lost a match. She was a fearless traveler who was up for absolutely anything and loved exploring new places and things. She was a voracious reader with a thirst for knowledge and a natural curiosity about all people, places and things. She was an incorrigible shopper, who could never pass up admiring a sparkly jewel or a beautiful handbag, making for many fun hours of shopping outings. Ethel loved meeting new people and never met a stranger. She made friends easily and treasured time spent with her family and friends. She was a pillar of strength and exemplified living a meaningful life through her connection to people, never hesitating to give of herself to others. Ethel brightened any room she was in, and her enthusiasm and zest for life were magnetic. She will be remembered as a strong and loving wife, mother, daughter, grandmother and great-grandmother (fondly referred to by this herd as Maw-Maw), sister, aunt, mentor, and friend.

In lieu of flowers and in the spirit of service to others that Ethel exemplified, we ask, if you are able, that donations be made to the First United Methodist Church of Stanley, NC.

A virtual service will be held via Zoom on Friday, January 15th at 2:00pm (online via or by phone at 1-301-715-8592 / Meeting ID: 831 9571 8119#). Burial will be at Hillcrest Gardens Cemetery. A family “celebration of life” will be held at a later date.

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